. .....Dead Can Dance anyone?
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Yes, most certainly.
I have several of their albums......bought some time ago as LPs.
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My wife and I also clash over music. She hates 80s pop and a lot of the bands I like, while I consider some of the music she listened to as a kid really dumb. The five year difference between us I suppose.
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Why not simply say that the music she likes is her preference, which you don't share, rather than that her choice of music (which you don't much care for) is "really dumb"?
This is something I used to notice from male classmates at university, - several of whom (who were often passionate about music) didn't just confine themselves to extolling the virtues of whatever music they liked, but who also insisted on taking a judgmental attitude to some of the musical preferences of their female classmates.
Personally, I loathe rap, and hip hop, and never much cared for heavy metal, whereas I love a lot of classical music, (especially Baroque), trad, classic rock, a fair bit if pop, folk, some jazz, and so on.
However, I do think during our youth that many people seemed to see their choice of musical preferences - or their musical discoveries - or the music that was popular at the time - as part of their identity, which was especially strong when they were teens as that was the time when they were assembling their identity, or sense of self.
This is much less pronounced nowdays; firstly, people seem to find other ways, means and methods of assembling, or crafting, an identity (much of it increasingly online); secondly, I suspect that not as many youngsters are messing around with, taking lessons in, learning and exploring music with musical instruments (piano, guitar, to name two obvious ones which a great many of my peers - male and female both - were acquainted with, and, in some cases, very familiar with, in some way or another when I was growing up) as was the case when I was a teenager.
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Music moves me, it affects me, I love it, and I cannot imagine life without it. Music can be transformative, it can be soothing and calming or exciting and filled with energy and this does tend to affect the listener. (By the way, I'm talking about real music, not that hip-hop/rap-crap stuff.) Yes, I'm older. Yes, I prefer real music. Beautiful classical arias or instrumental pieces can transport me, and so can lively rock songs.
I don't have or want to have music playing all the time at home, though; it's more of a deliberate choice. Ditto for not having a TV turned on all the time; I don't need or want that background noise -- when I am ready to concentrate on something, such as doing important paperwork, for me any background sound is just too distracting. This is when it comes in handy to be hearing-impaired. By removing my hearing aids I can literally shut off most of the extraneous sounds around me and do what I need to do in true peace and quiet.
To be honest, it has always rather interested me how apparently for other people this continuous sound -- either the TV going all the time or music playing nonstop as background -- seems to be really essential.
Yes, music moves me, too, sometimes very powerfully.
And agree also with not having the need for background noise, or stimulation; I can never understand people who want a TV especially (and yes, also a radio) on in the background all of the time.
Turn them on when you wish to listen to (or watch) something, so that this is a deliberate choice.
Since my mother's death (and yes, the subsequent pandemic) I have come to treasure silence. It is wonderful.