Agree with all your points, I mean look at the - to put it politely - the "fully sexually functional androids in an attractive human form" you mention or virtual girlfriend AI I see a lot of in the media (recall the virtual assistant in Blade Runner 2 - and that was a good film). Maybe some women would like AI boyfriends but it's not on the agenda.
Agreed.
Actually, before designing anything, especially anything of the sort in AI (and unleashing such designs on the world while attempting to claim that this describes the human experience, and meets human needs - no, it describes a white, affluent, male experience, and those are the specific needs it has been designed to meet, but, please, let us not conflate or confuse this with the human experience, still less the human female experience, or attempt to argue that such designs are the default human setting - spoiler alert: They are not) - I would make a close study of Caroline Criado Perez's outstanding book "Invisible Women", and make it compulsory reading.
And yes, AI boyfriends are not on the agenda of many women.
Now, notwithstanding the above, I suspect that women may see some potential in AI, principally of the labour saving (physical and psychological, that of the emotional labour) variety.
Thus, AI carers for children, and seniors, AI that could be relied upon for stuff such as school runs, attending school plays, meeting school teachers to get feedback on Einstein junior's class performance, AI that remembers those tedious birthdays of those on the male partner's side of the family and proactively buys (and wraps) appropriate gifts, AI that is able to plan (and timetable) family stuff - play-dates, doctor's appointments, and so on - and this is in addition to all of that (exceedingly) boring cooking, and cleaning and laundry stuff
In any case, I'd imagine that AI that is designed (by women) to meet "women's needs" may well include some of the above, but - almost certainly - would not prioritise the notion of "fully functional sexual androids" in such a design blueprint or programme.