I would seriously suggest you read the series of articles at
http://www.anandtech.com/mac. AnandTech is a hard-core windows centric hardware tech site. They did a series of articles on what it is like for a long time windows power user to use mac os X. He gets some things wrong or is overly harsh do to his ignorance at the time of certain aspects of Mac OS X, but on the whole it is an insightful and largely balanced article. I would also suggest you read various Window to Mac switcher guides at macosxhints and at this site. The best advice, however, is not to force the mac to behave exactly like windows. Try the mac way, there are very good reasons why some things behave differently. I know it is frustrating. Read the Anand article, he too was frustrated and hated certain things at first. As to your specific questions.
1) Do as you would in msWindows, position (tile) the each window on the screen with the mouse. EDIT: oops my ignorance of Windows showing here ignore this point.
2) Any window be it finder or safari will remember the window size and that you last set. The green button toggles between the size you last manually set and the minimum size needed to display all of the information. Therefore launch safari and set the window to full screen using the mouse, quit safari. Launch safari again, the window will the be size you set it to a minute ago. Now you can use the green button to toggle between full screen and minnumum size required to display the information. Or simply use Firefox or Camino, which behave differently.
3) Use an automator action?
4) Yep, as others have mentioned use onyx, cocktail, or tinkertool to tell the finder to show the unix file structure (i.e,. the "hidden files"). There are other system options in these programs you might also find useful. My personal favorite is putting bidirectional scroll arrows at both ends of the scroll bar.
5) Actually that would be kind of nice, but no you can not add an address bar to the finder tool bar. However, a simple key command, CommandShiftG, gets you to an address field where you can type in your address. Being a fan of keyboard short cuts, this ought to appeal to you. A tool bar field in a finder window would necessitate a mouse click.
Alternatively, spend more time in terminal where almost everything is done with the keyboard ... Now that would be the pinnacle of super-user-dom (according to your definition) ;-).
6) Use Command` and Command~ to cycle windows and use CommandTab to cycle between applications. But you know that already. I just Opened 6 finder windows and was able to Command` through them, then CommandTabbed to another application and then Command` through its windows. So you problem is what, exactly?
8) 512 mb is generally considered minimum. OS X likes to keep as much stuff in RAM as it as possible for ready access. One to four gigs seems to be the generic range for average "power" users (see various polls at macosxhints.com, or this forum)
9) Yes, see various hints regarding this topic at macosxhints.com. Here is just one such hint
http://www.macosxhints.com/article.php?story=2005083108535112&query=delete+trash.
10)Since there are third party non-standard media codecs available for quicktime, I would assume the answer is "possibly", depending on the codec in question. I do not use Final Cut Pro, but I would assume that it can use quicktime to interpret codecs.
11) I was about to say make a new print profile and name it standard (after deleting the old standard), as you discovered ... no can do. That said the print dialog should remember the profile you last used and default to that. At least that what happens on my machine. Not sure why yours is acting different.
