I sense a technological progression here...next up, annoyances or non-response problems with TikToks?
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No, it is your opinion that it is rude.
Your opinion. Not mine.
I have already said that an agreed etiquette for mobile (cell) phones and for social media use are only evolving and developing now; they are most certainly not agreed upon.
Again, @Analog Kid expresses it well: People who revert with "did you get my message", or insist on replies within a given time frame, can come across as needy, and they are certainly demanding of my time and attention.
Both @dmr727 and @Analog Kid have made the - to me - very valid point about the assumption that a text message does not obligate you to do anything, and, this, too, is a position I hold.
Moreover, the point @dmr727 made about one's age may well also have relevance in this discussion; I am not a digital native, and I learnt to type on my mother's manual type-writer.
I sense a technological progression here...next up, annoyances or non-response problems with TikToks?
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But I'm honored that you took the time to research my thread posting history 😉
My point is if you needed a response and you had not gotten one, why get stressed or annoyed and just call the personSee above. Also, I made it pretty clear I'm not demanding an immediate response. 24 hours (give or take) in order to respond with something is an extremely reasonable expectation.
My point is if you needed a response and you had not gotten one, why get stressed or annoyed and just call the person
If you think anything you want me to do concerns me, think again.
Most text messages I get are more in line with fyi items.
That's more of a you problem, if you would rather complain about it and not really deal resolving the problem, then that's totally on you. If it were me, and I didn't get a response in a timely manner, I'd call. A 30 second call, seems so much better then just sitting there stewing on why he/she has not responded.If I'm at the point where I'm having to call, then i'm already annoyed.
If it were me, and I didn't get a response in a timely manner, I'd call.
So what.but that doesn't change the fact that I shouldn't have had to do that
So what.
I shouldn't have to do a lot of things, but I do. That's call being an adult. Sure you're friend didn't get back to you, its not really the end of the world. If people are consistent about anything its our ability to disappoint others.
I mean life isn't all unicorns and rainbows. If someone doesn't get back to you, then deal with it, make a call, then move on.
Maybe because I grew up poor, or had to work 3 jobs just so I could pay rent, food and car payment. Facing larger struggles have put into perspective many things and one thing I try to do is not to sweat the small stuff. Texting is most definitely small stuff
The biggest offenders are my adult children and their ongoing foibles as they troll through the day while I toil away, so I have to leave the incessant group texts because I have to run my business. 3 of my kids laugh, the oldest one is pretty much the issue. But the rest of the fam actually jokes about it with me.
As said above by another poster, I didn't even realize I cared about this until the OP.
Sometimes what may seem important to us just does not hold that same significance to others. It is fairly arrogant in my opinion, to set your expectations on others, most especially me. Ha.
Interesting discussion here! A few days ago I sent an email to a friend (who like me, is retired, so isn't super-busy with work, a growing family, grandchildren or other obligations of that sort) and asked a question relating to something we'd discussed about a month or so ago. Haven't heard back yet. It has been several days now. (At least to me) it would be fairly quick and easy for the recipient to take a minute or two, maybe a couple more seconds beyond that, to at least either email or text, "hi, really busy right now, I'll write in more detail later...."
If I haven't heard from this friend by tomorrow, I will send off a text myself, see if a response eventually does result....
Yes, times have changed and heaven knows I am as guilty as many others when it comes to not being immediately responsive with emails. Texts from friends and family I usually do try to respond to fairly promptly; however, if I am out doing something or am at home but still in bed or in the shower, a response from me is just going to have to wait until I've seen the text and at that time have the opportunity to respond.
If I'm at the point where I'm having to call, then i'm already annoyed.
If - let us take this as a hypothetical situation - we were (not) communicating, and I was already aware (from previous encounters), in other words, I knew that you would be annoyed by my tardy response, or my non response - this would encourage me even more than ever not to respond.I don't think you're getting me. That (what I put in bold underline) means the annoyance has already occurred (failure to respond in a timely manner). ....
I'm glad I'm annoyed at lack of communication.
.... That doesn't mean it's acceptable for others to slack off on their adult responsibilities. What is so hard to grasp here? So no one should seek to improve in this area if communication because "life isn't all unicorns and rainbows"? We should just accept mediocrity?
Exactly.Sometimes what may seem important to us just does not hold that same significance to others. It is fairly arrogant in my opinion, to set your expectations on others, most especially me. Ha.
If - let us take this as a hypothetical situation - we were (not) communicating, and I was already (from previous encounters) knew that you would be annoyed by my tardy response, or my non response - this would encourage me even more than ever not to respond.
These are your definitions of how to behave in this situation, but they are not mine.
"Slack off?" That is a judgment;
actually, personally, I would regard it as controlling, offensive and judgmental to take that tone - especially about such a relatively minor matter - into a personal relationahip.
You are arrogating to yourself the right to define "the terms of engagement" of how - or, rather, when - someone should respond to a text message - but it is clear from the thread that these particular terms of engagement are not agreed by all parties.
Thus, you can determine your reactions and responses, but you do not have the right to demand how others should behave or conduct themselves in this situation, and then find fault with them when they fail to abide by (they ahven't agreed to abide by) your standards.
You can set your own expectations; you cannot expect others to meet them, not in the context of a personal relationship, not unless such conditions have been agreed to in advance (and I, for one, would not agree to such conditions in the contxt of a personal relationship).
Exactly.
Bravo, and well said.
I can see the OP point. One question though; was the timely communication expectation set up front?
I do have a few contacts that I absolutely need a reply soonest. Never more than a day out. If the method I use doesn’t result in a reply, I will call. Just a rule I set up for myself. No getting annoyed or upset.
Sent IM on Monday.
Rule 1: no response by Tuesday afternoon > call at min leave a VM.
Exactly this.Why not just call him?
I think immediate needs ought to be done using other means, i.e., calling him/her. Why sit there stewing and getting frustrated when picking up the phone and calling him/her will solve the issue