You should create MacRumors threads for each message and send links to your friends/family. You get very prompt responses here 😁I've noticed that a whole lot of people take forever to respond to texts or don't respond at all.
You should create MacRumors threads for each message and send links to your friends/family. You get very prompt responses here 😁I've noticed that a whole lot of people take forever to respond to texts or don't respond at all.
You should create MacRumors threads for each message and send links to your friends/family. You get very prompt responses here 😁
If the tone of your replies to maflynn is how you respond to tardy texts, I am not surprised that people decide to let a text from you stew for a few days or weeks before sitting down and steeling themselves to respond. At least, that would be my response.
I make no such signals. I'm complaining about it here, but I don't make an issue about it with the "offenders" themselves.
In any case, for what it is worth, he - and everyone else here - have replied to you in good faith, even if they disagree with how you frame your position; accusing someone of "gas-lighting" is both unfair and untrue.
Seriously, that is not a jab; that is an explanation.
@chrono1081 was not seeking to "jab" you; he (I assume that he is a "he") was explaining that you - and your message - are not a priority; clearly, neither the existing relationship between the two of you, that is, between you and the tardy texter, nor the situation in question (the week-end activity) warrant that.
That is a fact, an explanation, not a jab.
I do the exact same thing for the exact same reason.
Anyway, as time is precious, as a follow up text, might I suggest simply ask them to reply with a "yes please/yes thanks" or a "no thanks".
Clearly was a jab intended there. Basically saying, "I guess you just aren't important to them." That's simply not true. We're long-time friends. As I said, even my own brother does this with both me and our parents. We all love each other, and it's obviously not that he doesn't care for us. It's just disorganization. My parents have complained about it too.
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If someone says good morning to me, I'd assume that some sort of 'connection' - perhaps eye contact - was made first. I don't consider a text to be the same thing. Obviously there are relationships in my life (family, friends, etc) where I'll make myself available whenever possible (and there's even a hierarchy there!), but a text message in and of itself doesn't obligate me to jack squat.
This could possibly be an age thing, though. Now where's that .jpg of the old dude shaking his fist at clouds....
This is one exception I agree with. If I've already answered and you argue. I may respond one or two more times, but then I won't answer and eventually I'll respond and block.Sometimes, not responding, or, choosing not to respond, (to a text) is the response.
You note who has sent the message, and to respond will invite further (time-consuming, tedious and tiring) responses, or where you will be expected to give explanations (I especially detest those pleas when you have already - politely declined to do something or go somewhere - for, a "no" is a complete answer in itself; unless it is a major crisis, you shouldn't be expected to explain or justify a choice or decision).
This is what I mean by a "hierarchy" of names which will determine the nature of the response (or non-response).
There are people I will respond to (friendship, kinship, and their own personality dictating this response); others, I wish them well, but engaging with them is exhausting; increasingly, I do not respond or reply, and that, too, is a response.
No, I beg to differ.
And - with respect - I don't think that was a jab, rather, it was more an attempt at an explanation.
This is not saying that "I guess you just aren't important to them", - clearly, you are important - it is more a case of "I guess that you aren't important enough - or the situation isn't important enough - to them to justify the added effort, energy, time and thought required to respond to this text in what the sender considers a timely manner". There is a difference between the two things.
I agree completely with chrono1081 on detesting a world where you are expected to be available 24/7.
It just comes down to compatibility. If someone doesn't answer how you like or someone annoys you for answers, then tell them, and if they don't care, cut them off. There's plenty of other people.
But, whether something is complimentary to you is not the point to them; most likely, it is not only irrelevant to them, but this is not the goal to them.
You - and your reactions to their actions or non-actions - are not their concern, and they will not want to make this their problem.
Their lives do not revolve around you, and they have their own concerns, which will take priority in their lives.
Stating that reactions - reactions you have described (and judged) varying as "uncomplimentary", "slack", "disorganised", "gas lighting", "spiteful", 'a jab" - are all your subjective reactions, and are actions or motivations you attribute to others.
They are not necessarily shared by others.
Re posting here, - or, taking the time to post here - and arguing that one lacks time to text, what you are missing is not the apparent contradiction (use of time), but the act of agency, and the fact of choice, choosing how to spend one's free time. One can choose not to respond to a text message, or, one can reply immediately, later, or - (in my case), sometimes, much later.
For, this is how I choose to spend my time.
If current conditions compressed my available time, my choices would be different, and woudl take a differnet form.
Well, good luck with your mission to help people have better texting etiquette. It sure won’t hurt if people communicate better.if even one person changes their habits, then that will be worth it.
Same here. I think when someone doesn't reply it means they aren't listening or reading the texts at all. Same with email—a lot of times, people don't respond... it implies that they didn't acknowledge what I had to say. What's even worse if when the person doesn't even check their email... I know so many people who just don't for whatever reason. I have my email AND texts open in the background all the time in case something comes up.I find it very rude when people just stop replying, to me it's like if I'm talking with someone and that person just leaves without saying anything.
I just dumped all the inactive servers into a folder. The other ones I'm in are very active.It's even worse on Discord. Servers or PMs. Some people don't reply at all, like literally weeks go by and nothing.
Makes me wonder why I have an account.
I've noticed that a whole lot of people take forever to respond to texts or don't respond at all.
I've noticed that a whole lot of people take forever to respond to texts or don't respond at all
Something that has irritated me greatly for years now is people who can't be bothered to take the time to acknowledge important emails or messages that I send...
That is interesting.I know this is a dead thread, but I keep coming back to it now and again. I think it's an important topic. I have several family members who almost never respond (or take a REALLY long time), and then some that respond immediately.
In my experience, family members who don't have "read receipts" turned on are less likely to respond. People that do almost always respond quickly.
I want people to know when I have read their message, so I keep that feature on for everyone, including new contacts. And I always respond quickly (unless I'm busy and can't respond right away). Then, after whatever the obligation is, I will.
EDIT: The other annoying thing is, sometimes I'll be messaging someone (usually the people who don't have "read receipts" turned on and take forever), and they'll only reply to the last message, not all the previous ones. Arrrrgh!!!
idk what the coincidence of showing that the person has read the message and them replying in a timely manner to all messages is, but it's certainly been my experience!