Of course. MR is the place to be….Well, except us 🤣
Of course. MR is the place to be….Well, except us 🤣
I had the misfortune of being the one-eyed man in the kingdom of the blind…I never much liked secondary school (high school), - didn't much care fro many of my classmates, though I wish them well, I have no great desire to meet most of them - in fact, I was invited to a function there last year, but declined politely; school reunions sound like a version of hell.
However, I loved university.
In university, you are more likely to meet people you have some sort of affinity with and share your interests, so that you may have something in common - such as those studying subjects that you like.
While I don't 'do' social media - I've never joined FB/Meta and never will - and am not much interested in university reunions, either - again, I was invited to one last year and also declined politely - there are people with whom I was fairly friendly at university but haven't seen in ages, and thus, wouldn't mind meeting them at some stage for a chat and coffee.
Agree.Knowing others is impossible in principle and probably unnecessary from a practical standpoint. It is like a band members finding out that after being together and knowing each other for twenty years they fight and argue even more than before even leaving aside the "creative tension".
The idea is that if you know yourself you are already in the "rare air" and by "manifesting your core values" you are pretty much making sure that you don't attract the "wrong people" in any walks of life.
I never much liked secondary school (high school), - didn't much care for many of my classmates, though I wish them well, I have no great desire to meet most of them - in fact, I was invited to a function there last year, but declined politely; school reunions sound like a version of hell.
But among my wife and kids, it is clear that I am at the bottom of the pile.
That is mostly true. But in reality, as long as one is alive and conscious, the act of getting to know oneself does not end. What one considers "one's core values" often change or adapt along the way.Knowing others is impossible in principle and probably unnecessary from a practical standpoint. It is like a band members finding out that after being together and knowing each other for twenty years they fight and argue even more than before even leaving aside the "creative tension".
The idea is that if you know yourself you are already in the "rare air" and by "manifesting your core values" you are pretty much making sure that you don't attract the "wrong people" in any walks of life.
I enjoyed your writing, and for some reason feel that if what you wrote is true you have become wiser.Myself, I do not necessarily mind the solitude. Some of the best times of my life were those in which I was rarely in contact with others, sometimes only spending maybe 30 minutes around others a week. I lived in a remote house in the nature, and I spent many hours lost in music or in woodworking. It was a quiet, peaceful life.
Even once I eventually had to leave that house, I was still never a particularly 'social' person, not until the Internet came along. Once the internet was out, I was active. I was active everywhere, I was making friends left and right, playing video games with people (a hobby I had never partaken in before in serious measure) and having a very good time. I finally came out of my cocoon for the first time in twenty years.
It was that wild west period of the internet, in the late 90s and early 2000s. Back before social media, but we still had messenger clients and whatnot. Forums like this were prominent, and gaming communities were small but vibrant. I began to notice that as I became more social online, I did in the real world too. I knew my neighbors, I had friends at work, I hosted guests regularly for the first time, my social life was thriving. All because I had been given that first step online.
Eventually though it all faded. By now I'm practically back in that state of solitude I was 30-40 years ago. I have a few good friends, which I appreciate, but I do not see them often. I spend little time online these days, as I never quite adapted to social media, forums have reduced in relevance, and I stopped gaming. Most of my time is spent either working (with wood!) or listening to music on my own. Again. But this time, it does feel a little lonely. I enjoy peace and quiet, I was always someone who wanted to be left undisturbed, but in a way that is coming at a great detriment.
This is all to say that even though I never really used social media, I understand completely how the internet can make up for those connections you maybe didn't have in the real world, but never realized it. It is much more sobering to realize it once you've lost it, than before you had it. I likewise often find myself with thoughts or ideas I wish to express or discuss with others, but no place to do so anymore.
It hurts sometimes. But it does make for a splendid time for self-reflection, which is what I have gained out of this. Think about what matters, what truly matters. You may learn eventually that the forms of communication you had were not what you wanted anyway; a band-aid of sorts. Perhaps that is not the answer you desire, but it is an increasingly common one in the age of social media. I understand how you've come to feel this way. Excuse the massive post...
My High School grad class was rather large (780) especially for South Dakota. As such, they offered advanced English, advanced Math, and my HS band trip my senior year was two weeks touring Europe! I made many close friends then, and I had to miss all previous reunions but got to my 40th, and I had a blast; didn't even get to talk to everyone I wanted to, over a 3-day weekend. Got dragged right over to the table with a bunch of band-mates and those of us who joined the military.A handful-and-a-half years-ago, I decided to attend my 30th HS Reunion.
This meant a plane/car reservation, and a great deal of time negotiating rural America.
It was (probably) one of the most other-worldly experiences of my entire life
One of my classmates still looked/wore her hair in the *exact* way she did back in the day!
Many with whom I re-connected still walk the very same paths now, as they did then . . . I have become a dandelion seed, blown to the wind . . . .
My High School grad class was rather large (780) especially for South Dakota. As such, they offered advanced English, advanced Math, and my HS band trip my senior year was two weeks touring Europe! I made many close friends then, and I had to miss all previous reunions but got to my 40th, and I had a blast; didn't even get to talk to everyone I wanted to, over a 3-day weekend. Got dragged right over to the table with a bunch of band-mates and those of us who joined the military.
I hope that doesn't sound elitist; high school was similar to college for me.
I got to know my classmates well, because the class was so small (71 students), but I never made real friends with any of them. I stayed out of all "social circles," and participated only in activities outside of school. This meant that I missed out on a lot of opportunities (which I made a post about while ago), but I had countless unique opportunities that came up outside of school. That's what I'm looking forward to in college, is talking to people with shared interests, because then I can REALLY get to know them, in a much deeper (in this case, a musical) sense. In high school, there were a lot of gamers, athletes, and academics, but sadly, there weren't really any musicians.I never much liked secondary school (high school), - didn't much care for many of my classmates, though I wish them well, I have no great desire to meet most of them - in fact, I was invited to a function there last year, but declined politely; school reunions sound like a version of hell.
However, I loved university.
In university, you are more likely to meet people you have some sort of affinity with and share your interests, so that you may have something in common - such as those also studying subjects that you have chosen to study, subjects that you actually like (which was not always the case in high school).
While I don't 'do' social media - I've never joined FB/Meta and never will - and am not much interested in university reunions, either - again, I was invited to one last year and also declined politely - there are people with whom I was fairly friendly at university but haven't seen in ages, and thus, wouldn't mind meeting them at some stage for a chat and coffee.
There is a reason why I used the term "core values" as they are usually non-negotiable in principle or require a major change like a nun becoming a hooker. At this rate though you'll be asking a question if this person correctly identified her "core values" to begin with.That is mostly true. But in reality, as long as one is alive and conscious, the act of getting to know oneself does not end. What one considers "one's core values" often change or adapt along the way.
Like, in a deeper way than I would have expected.
I have a wife, kid, and large family who I love, but no friends who I speak with regularly. I'm only now noticing how much socials took up that need for me, until I stopped them completely.
Now, when I think of something I think is clever, I write it down, and.... nothing. The page doesn't eventually get a like 10 min later, and maybe three more over the course of a thrilling hour. It's ********.
^ this outlines a problem I don't think enough of us – myself included, obviously – talk about and admit.
I had this stupid little thought tonight while watching Marc Rebillet and envying all the people there in the moment, while I was on the other side of the camera.
Yeah the local/federated feeds are a firehose that feel impossible to keep up with. I have about 100-120 posts that are new from people I'm following when I log in and that's good enough for me.The bad news is that it’s got scrolling text posts just like X and it’s impossible to keep up to date with all the posts unless you want to live on the app. On iOS I’m using either the Ice Cube app or my Safari browser to access the Fediverse, and typically I wake up to 600 or 1200 new posts. I might read a couple of posts , but then I swoop to the top and have no idea what I missed. Imo, it’s an simplistic structure not nearly as good as the forum structure.
Of course not. Just post it on FB with a little tearful emoji.I don't want to be on my death bed lamenting about all the wasted time on social media.
Social media is an interaction with other people. Granted not as good as face to face interactions, but online your getting access to the world and a huge diverse group of people, if you like sharing your thoughts with them. The thing is not to get consumed by it as a past time and obviously to keep the people around you as your top priority. It's kind of like alcoholism, you're not an alcoholic until your drinking adversely impacts your life, in some shape or form that you decide is too adverse.I feel better leaving social media...Now I'm not ranting about something without resolves. I'll spend that time with family---I don't want to be on my death bed lamenting about all the wasted time on social media.
I'll spend that time with family---I don't want to be on my death bed lamenting about all the wasted time on social media.
…and obviously to keep the people around you as your top priority.
We old folks don't care what strangers think of us. That's the way it is and we like it.😉Never joined FB or Twitter. Never will.
I have no idea how many likes I get on here. I never look. It’s irrelevant to me.
My self worth is not tied up in how popular or unpopular I am.
Young people seek validation from others; be part of the popular it crowd.I think social media can most certainly detrimental thing for a lot of people - young people especially.
Who you calling old? Oh wait I’m not supposed to care! 🤪We old folks don't care what strangers think of us. That's the way it is and we like it.😉
Young people seek validation from others; be part of the popular it crowd.
I'm instilling in my teenage daughter that she should be herself, not succumb to peer pressure. Golden Age Superman wore his underwear on the outside. The Goddess of Love, Aphrodite/Venus, has belly rolls. What others think of her is a reflection of them, not her.
Polonius [Hamlet Act I, scene 3] gave the best advice, so what better words than his own?
This above all: to thine own self be true
And it must follow, as the night the day
Thou canst not then be false to any man
Farewell, my blessing season this in thee!
I can definitely relate to this... my parents have been gone for years, and not close to any siblings or other family...It is unfortunate for me and my wife, that online or in-person, the people in my family are not people you want to spend time with, be close to or least of all make a priority in your life.
Most of them have views and opinions that I do not and are quite vocal about their feelings for those who don't feel or think the same way they do. Being a family member gives you no protection when holding the 'wrong' viewpoints.
And even the few who might share similar beliefs are not the warm and fuzzy type you want to be close to.
I was just born too late in my family and didn't drink the family Kool-Aid.
Who you calling old? Oh wait I’m not supposed to care! 🤪
It is unfortunate for me and my wife, that online or in-person, the people in my family are not people you want to spend time with, be close to or least of all make a priority in your life.It is unfortunate for me and my wife, that online or in-person, the people in my family are not people you want to spend time with, be close to or least of all make a priority in your life.
Most of them have views and opinions that I do not and are quite vocal about their feelings for those who don't feel or think the same way they do. Being a family member gives you no protection when holding the 'wrong' viewpoints.
And even the few who might share similar beliefs are not the warm and fuzzy type you want to be close to.
I was just born too late in my family and didn't drink the family Kool-Aid.