Never thought i would be here.Cant believe Apple would leave me out in the cold.
You remind me of a good story!
Years ago I bought a safe from a store. I put inside of it my passport, an extra credit card and $500 in cash. A year later I went to open it, and it would not open with my code. I found out my child had at some point been playing with it, punching in lots and lots of numbers for so long that it locked. If that happens the only way to open it is with the 'backup' key. Good thing I had that!
So I went to the drawer where I kept all my spare keys and it was gone!
Ther drawer had lost the key!
I could not believe my drawer had lost the key, and my child had done silly child things.
So I called the company that makes the safe. I explained all of this and told them that since it was not my fault and I was a loyal customer and - I know they can open it for me - I would like them to do that. Even with the receipt they said they could not send me a new key and there was no way to enable the code again. I told them I would even send the safe to them - and they could open it for me and give me my items back.
They refused. They do not unlock their secure devices in any way, that is their policy they told me.
So my child had done silly child things, the drawer had lost the key, and the company left me out in the cold.
Whose fault was it?
1. Me for buying a safe from that company
2. My child for punching in numbers on a keypad
3. The drawer for not looking after the backup key properly
4. The company for refusing to open the device for me
5. Mine for leaving the device unsupervised, losing track of the backup and expecting the manufacturer to bail me out
OP - I do wish you the best. I think it will be easier for you if you stop blaming Apple and just accept what has happened. I hope a solution does become available in the future.